Some books you read have a profound impact on your life. One of the most profound books I've ever listened to as I had it in audiobook format was the book linked below by Joan Rosenburg:
This book, "90 Seconds To A Life You Love" changed my life in a big way. I can actually remember the last time I got really mad at something. It was over 2 years ago. How did I do it? Well, the main premise of the book is that there are 8 negative emotions that make you feel bad. They are sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, embarrassment, disappointment, frustration, vulnerability. When a situation occurs in real life and you end up feeling a negative emotion, it's going to be one of the negative emotions above. They don't feel good when you feel them, but when you can anticipate feeling a negative emotion, they feel much less impactful. That is what I've been doing for the past couple years.
Now, you are probably wondering why I haven't been angry in 2 years. Joan teaches in the book not to let anger or any emotion permeate for more than 90 seconds. Yes, 90 seconds. So when I do get angry or I do feel bad, that emotion only lasts for 90 seconds. Then, I got better at recognizing my emotions and controlling them that they only lasted for 60 seconds, then 30 seconds, then even less. Now, I almost don't feel any negative emotions. I'm not sure if this is a good thing or bad thing. I've heard that some people only feel negative emotions and enjoy feeling them because it's better to feel something than nothing at all. Nonetheless, I am fine roaming through life not feeling anything but positive emotions.
You might be wondering how I feel positive emotions. I do this through two ways. One way is through communication. I enjoy connecting with people and helping them realize things that they have not considered. I also enjoy laughing with people and get feel good positive emotions when I am laughing at something I said or they said. That is why when you see me I probably have a smile on my face. I also like how laughing allows you to release tension in your body. It makes me feel young and jovial. Which is exactly how I want to feel.
If you want to understand your emotions better I would absolutely want to talk with you about them. They are one of my favorite subjects. Being able to recognize emotions is an important skill that I can help you develop so you can look and feel your best.
PS: I think being able to recognize emotions and how you feel impacts your hair line and how you look. It's why I think I look young for my age. By recognizing how you feel, you can start to turn back the clock so you look and feel younger. I also think having more energy makes you feel younger. So when you are in conversation and your goal is to have fun, please realize you are helping yourself turn back the clock by being full of life with a youthful spirit. You'll notice you can help the people around you have fun, which is not only fun for you, it's a profound realization.